WHETHER IT’S YOUR PARENTS, BROTHER, OR HEALTH TEACHER THAT GIVES YOU “THE TALK,” YOU ALWAYS LEARN ABOUT SEX WITH THE USE OF A CONDOM. SOMEWHERE OVER TIME HOWEVER, WE REALIZE THAT YOU DON’T ALWAYS HAVE TO WRAP THE WILLY.
“Imagine showering in a plastic jumpsuit. You can feel the pressure from the water, but can you feel the water? No.” Raw sex is like playing a game of one-on-one with Michael Jordan in his prime — you will have nowhere to run, and nowhere to hide and eventually all your flaws will be revealed. For most people, raw sex is numerous steps above condom sex. The rubbery texture is eliminated. Dick doesn’t suddenly smell like a hospital. Sensations are intensified. The slip ‘n slide gets real. It’s just great. It’s warm and it’s wet.
“There’s a HUGE difference between raw and condom sex, and I prefer to go raw always. It literally feels like nothing is happening when I have sex with a condom, while when I don’t use one… heavenly.”
Condoms often dry out the vag, which causes for the need of lube (especially if you’re going multiple rounds). They also eliminate the spread of cum, which is obviously great prevention wise, but some people miss the view of it spritzing all over her cheeks or that face he makes when he releases inside. Ill-fitting condoms that are too tight can cause discomfort and pain to the shaft, while for those that are too loose, slippage becomes a problem. Both provide for decreased sensitivity and frustration that allows the moment to be ruined. The act of actually putting on a condom is known for disturbing the “mood,” possibly even causing ya mans entire erection to drop.
“Instead of me going from eating her out to just sliding in, I have to stop, get up and go get the condom. It just interrupts everything.”
Still some females feel otherwise: “I’ve never really had a problem with my man going to get a condom. It doesn’t ruin the flow at all on my part. I’m honestly just taking that time to prepare myself for the d**k.” But what can condoms provide ladies and gentleman: mental comfort. Whether you’re thinking that hard or not, having unprotected sex is pretty much one fully accepting all the possible negative consequences — including babies, sti’s and/or std’s.
“Honestly, raw feels good as hell. In that moment you don’t even mind getting pregnant. You don’t even want them to pull out. But then afterwards you’re in the bathroom, crying stressed as hell trying to do the scoop method.”
There’s nothing worse than waiting those couple weeks post raw experience, worrying over the possibility, praying to God for forgiveness, desperate for just a drop of blood to hit those panties. As for males, “I missed my period” or “I’m late” can suddenly have a nigga thinking about his whole future.
FOR ALL THOSE WHO ARE UNAWARE, THE TRUE ODDS OF A PREGNANCY DEPEND STRATEGICALLY UPON WHERE A FEMALE IS IN HER MENSTRUAL CYCLE. OVULATION.
It can get rather complicated so here are the basics: ovulation involves a hormone triggering your body to release an egg to be fertilized, which is when one is most likely to get pregno. This all occurs 12–16 days before your cycle. You want the egg to not get fertilized, break apart, and shed which is what happens during your period.
The withdrawal method, also known as coitus interruptus or pull and pray is actually the oldest form of birth control and it’s right up there with condoms giving you a 96% pregnancy prevention rate when done perfectly. Problem is perfect sex rarely exists, especially for teens or sexually inexperienced men. What does this term “perfect sex” include?
- Y’all both need to accept that sex will be ending a lil early and exhibit full commitment to that concept.
- He must know exactly when his sexual excitement is leading towards ejaculation and when it can no longer be stopped.
Even with perfect timing, active sperm can be found in precum, which are the juices released prior to ejaculation. So realistically, with typical human error, you’re looking at 78% which still compares strongly to condoms 82%. With perfect use, condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy, but that requires
- Not putting the condom on too late (after 29 strokes)
- Not using incompatible lubricants (oil based)
- Not puncturing the condom (opening the wrapper with scissors)
- Not removing it too early (must I even explain)
SO WITH ONLY 4% DIFFERENCE IN BABY BLOCKING, WHY CHOOSE ONE OVER THE OTHER?
HIV. STI’s. STD’s.
Condoms are critical for protection against infections and diseases. Something that even birth control can’t do. The results were pretty repetitive when asking Howard University males what type of protection they use: birth control and condoms.
“I use condoms majority of the time, but once you’re in a relationship for a long time… raw is a regular. Because once you take it raw, there’s pretty much no going back.”
“If she’s on birth control, usually I stop using them after having sex 5 times because by then I know I’m the only one she talks to.”
“Raw feels too good, but my pullout game weak so I just use condoms instead of taking that risk.”
BIRTH CONTROL SEEMS TO BE FEMALES STANDARD WAY OF PROVIDING HER SET OF PROTECTION. FOR SOME IT’S AN EXTRA BLANKET OF SECURITY, WHILE FOR OTHERS IT’S THE MAIN GUARD.
Short acting hormonal methods interfere with ovulation and fertilization, preventing eggs from even leaving the ovaries. It also thickens your cervical mucus to hindering sperm from even reaching potential eggs. With these you’ve got the pill, the ring, and the patch.
- “THE PILL” is the most common form of both control, because it’s easy and inexpensive. You take it daily (at the same time) for most effectiveness, but it can come with spotting between periods, breast tenderness, nausea, and vomiting. It’s 99% effective, when taken correctly, but with the average college student not taking it on time or missing a day or two, it drops to 90%.
- “THE RING” is a thin circular loop around the size of a hair tie that you place in your vagina similarly to a tampon, except a lot higher up. You keep it in for three weeks, and take it out for your cycle. It’s 99.7% effective. Typically during sexual intercourse the ring is unfelt, but it is possible if you’re dealing with a big daddy and it’s not high enough that something can be noticed. In that case you have the option to remove it for up to three hours and still be fully protected.
- “THE PATCH“ is a square bandage that you keep on for three weeks, and remove for one week, before you switch. It is also 99% effective, as long as it’s not rubbed off by clothing or removed for any reason. The main health concern here is the possibility of skin irritation.
**Note: You must start directly after your cycle for immediate protection. Otherwise, 7 days are necessary before it’s considered “safe sex.” Also all of these methods are available on your student health insurance for free, and as long as you’re 18+ you don’t need any parent authorization. At Howard, you can receive a perspcription through the student health center.
NOTE: YOU MUST START DIRECTLY AFTER YOUR CYCLE FOR IMMEDIATE PROTECTION. OTHERWISE, 7 DAYS ARE NECESSARY BEFORE IT’S CONSIDERED “SAFE SEX.” ALSO ALL OF THESE METHODS ARE AVAILABLE ON YOUR STUDENT HEALTH INSURANCE FOR FREE. AND AS LONG AS YOU’RE 18+ YOU DON’T NEED ANY PARENT AUTHORIZATION. AT HOWARD, YOU CAN RECEIVE A PRESCRIPTION THROUGH THE STUDENT HEALTH CENTER.
Long Acting Reversible Contraceptives are for long term coverage with minimal user interference.
- IUD —Here you pretty much have your doctor insert a plastic or copper T-shaped device inside your uterus. So obviously this is moderately painful, but it’s known for lasting from 7–12 years. It is 99% effective and doesn’t affect your hormones like other birth controls, but there is a risk of infection and heavier periods.
- “THE SHOT” — Every three months you visit your clinic to inject the hormone progestin into your body through the arm. No other effort is required, as long as you meet your appointment date every three months. It’s 94 to 99.8% effectiveness prevents pregnancies rather well, however if any of its’ less common but undesirable side effects do occur, they normally last up to 12 weeks and don’t reside until the shot’s hormones have completely left your body.
Lastly we have barrier methods, which includes male and lest we forget, FEMALE CONDOMS. “I dead don’t know what it looks like.” Female condoms are often overlooked due to the “complexity” of the design. There are two rings, one for inside the vagina that holds on to the cervix and another that stays outside the vag providing coverage of the labia. Male sex organs are external, so the process of using a barrier method seems easier, but the protection whether it’s a male or female condom is the same.
Let’s say you’ve fallen victim to him just putting the tip in (which always leads to minimum 6 strokes) and now you find yourself liking it.
REMEMBER: You can’t be going raw with just anybody… some form of protection is critical for one’s health. No one wants painful urination, foul smelling discharge, skin rashes or an itchy vagina, so if you’re not doubling up, atleast use one form of preventive measures.
me: use condoms! be safe! babies!
me also: i love getting rawed.
Here’s my advice:
CONDOMS — Have condoms by the bed or in close proximity for easy access. Check the expiration dates and utilize your fingers not your mouth to open the pack. Use only water-based lubricants, because oil/petroleum based lubes can actually break down the condom. Place lube on the outside, but only on the tip of the condom inside. Too little + a lot of friction = a broken condom. Too much + a lot of friction = a condom deep inside her vagina or rectum that you have to pull out. Condoms do come in different sizes, so don’t try and play him with a lifestyle if he only wears magnums. Don’t keep condoms in your car because heat or extreme cold can damage the latex. Lastly, leave some room on the tip, so the semen actually has a place to go.
PULL OUT GAME — In the event, that your pull out game is weak…take ownership of that. Learn to get out earlier than you think, just to keep it on the safe side. If you’re doing rounds, urinate between ejaculations to clear any leftover sperm.
AND IN THE EVENT THAT SHIT HAPPENS:
“One time her shit was too valid… so I ain’t pull out. I personally felt like nutting in her was worth the $40 I spent on that Plan B.”
Plan B’s can be taken up to 72 hours after unprotected sex or birth control failure, but the faster you take it the more likely it is to fix your problem. In short, THE NEXT MORNING YOU NEED TO WAKE YA ASS UP AND HEAD TO WAL-MART. Note that Plan B is an EMERGENCY CONTRACEPTIVE, meaning it should not be taken often as a form of birth control and especially not more than once in one’s menstrual cycle.
Seeing that sex involves a dick and a vagina, splitting the cost is pretty standard. Remember that $40 is a lot cheaper than the U.S average cost to raise a child ($245,000), so throwing out two twenties shouldn’t be a problem. Ladies tend to get reallyyyyy emotional at this point, so going alone is not the smartest option. If you’re not with your partner, make a friend tag along (or have him go get it). They’re in the same section as the condoms and just so you know, a sales associate is required to give you take home access. If it turns into a solo trip and you’re embarrassed, head to the self-check out line or fake a phone call at the register: “Okay got the Plan B, do you need anything else?” #thepeoplewillneverknow
“The high of raw sex is a euphoria that gives us the impression that this is in fact the very reason we are alive, and the thought of not having it for an extended period of time is a nightmare in itself.”